One of the most important lessons I have benefited is a simple statement presented in one of the presuppositions of NLP: There is a positive intention behind all behaviour. Previously, I know that it is unkind to judge others but I never really understood what it meant until I come across NLP presuppositions. All I have to do is to understand that everyone does something in the light of something that we may not see it. Now I’ve become less harsh and critical towards the people around me, especially those that I face clashes with.
I have also learnt how different people behave and react differently. The V-A-K system has made understanding people generically easy. I am able to reflect on the relationships I have with people and work towards ways to improve the communication system.
During the last lesson, I felt particularly touch during the exercise on the NLP Parts Integration. NLP Parts Integration has helped me to feel at ease with two conflicting issues. Even though, we consciously know that there is a purpose in doing some things in life, but it has actually it has not emotionally been accepted. Personally I have attempted resolving the conflicting issue with my parents during the exercise and to my surprise, I felt very comforted at the end when I “Subconsciously Integrated” them together. I realised that beautiful values like faith, trust and acceptance have often been neglected in our daily lives and it is only through tis exercise, I am able to cherish these even more.
I remember on the first day of the course, I listed my objectives for coming to NLP. I wanted to improve my relationship with my parents and boyfriend. Although the improvements have not been actualised, but I believe it all begin in the mind that is to be positive. NLP has provided me various ways to manage my emotions better.
Secondly, I wanted to be able to communicate effectively at all times and able to deliver a meaningful speech whenever I am given an opportunity. I feel that I have regained confidence and develop more faith in myself now.
Author: Anonymous