Before I attended Acme Achievers’ Singapore NLP Practitioner course, I was exposed to NLP when Anthony Robbins came to Singapore in 2009. I attended his “Unleash the Power Within.” It was an awesome experience. I was simply amazed by now Anthony Robbins inspired thousands of audience in the hall.
For few months after attending his program, I saw a slight change in myself. Sadly, my changes did not last and I went plateau. Though I went back to my past behaviour and habits, deep within me, I know NLP can truly work and transform a person. I decided to learn more about NLP. This led me to Jacky’s NLP Practitioner course.
If anyone were to ask me what valuable knowledge or tools which I have acquire, that will be The Presuppositions of NLP (The Map is mot the Territory) and NLP Perceptual Positioning Tool.
The Map is not the Territory
Contrast that with the opposite belief: that the map is the territory. Just imagine: an entire world full of people who walked around believing that their view of reality is the only right one. Does it sound like a potential cause for arguments, fight and wars?
Learning this presupposition rally help me to be more patient and understanding when communicating with my family members or my love ones.
I used to think I am always right and that my suggestion or opinions is the best without wanting to accept other’s suggestion or decision. I simply do not understand why I am constantly being opposed.
Through the understanding of what is The Map is not the Territory, I am now able to open myself more to other’s suggestion and opinions because I truly understand different have different beliefs and values because of his or her past experience.
NLP Perceptual Positioning Tool
This is the tool which I find to be of great help to me. Through the use of this tool, it allows me to see, feel and identify with people better whom I had conflicts with.
I had an unresolved conflict with my spouse. We have different views on a long outstanding issue i.e. travelling overseas to spend some couple time.
After my spouse and I had kids, our couple time diminished drastically. Each time, I requested to take a short getaway, my requested was rejected by my spouse. She had her own reason for rejecting my idea. We just could not agree on each other’s view. Because of my spouse’s failure to see my point of view, I became frustrated and I began to feel insignificant. This led to many arguments and misunderstandings.
Utilizing this tool, I began to see and understand my spouse’s reason for rejecting my idea. I also realized I am equally at fault focusing too much on my own needs and wants instead of seeing hers. This led her to be stress and moody.
The situation is improving now after using this tool. I am confident that I can use this tool to resolve conflicts effectively for myself and others who are having conflicts as well.
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